Health

Tuesday 31 December 2013

SHIFT

People who know me closely can tell how much I cry over little things...lol So true! But very recently, a friend of mine told me,  hey Flo! You know what? Crying aren't gonna solve this situation, all we need do is to figure out a way to make this work... As simple as the statement sounds, they are relative to how much we rejoice over festive seasons, as well as New Years; we dance and buy new clothing's, exchange gifts, cook different meals and invite our friends and family. No doubt these are all important, but it makes majority of us, forget that we move only our outside neglecting out inside. This is what I call the Hezekiah dilemma whenever. God speaks through our ministers, Pastors about moving us to the next level, we start dancing, sowing seeds, telling friends about where god has promised to take us! but I have come to realize that rejoicing over it  won't take you there, all you need do is to be still and ask God to move the friends that will hinder your next level, take out whatever you don't want, nail yourself to the cross, say yes to his will, yes to not only dance but to be productive . 2013 is over, Do not fear to unapologetically cut some folks off. Disband the deadweight so you can Stimulate what God has for you! A lot of us have given up stillness to dancing. 2014 for me will be funeral for everything that has no essence of existence in my life, funeral of fear, funeral of depression, funeral of lack of goal setting, funeral of lack of time management, funeral of procrastination, funeral of bankruptcy; revival is next after the execution. Guilt will keep you Guarded, And don't let the hurt of what you didn't achieve in 2013 hold you hostage. New Year New YOU! Let it go... It's time for a #Shift

Wednesday 4 September 2013

Responsibility


"The first price for greatness is accepting responsibility"


Relationships with everyone you come across provides us admission to certain things that you would not have otherwise had approach to. These includes business deals, career choice , romantic relationships which comes with perks and of course business of your Talent which comes with huge responsibilities other than graduating from the university, getting a job, retire, get pensioned and receive your gratuity. Trust me No Friendship survives in imagination and nice thoughts alone, neither do any happy, comfortable life come with just having a 'WELL' paid job, there definitely  has to be some extra work put in to achieve happy moments, wealthy life.  A lot of times we want access to the benefits but want to do very little to ensure that both ends meet.
Juanita Bynum once said in one of her songs. " if you don't know my pain you won't understand my pain" A lot of us admire relationships/marriages/friendships/built career from a distance without understanding that there are a lot beyond what we see; bad times,  quarrels, which includes RESPONSIBILITY.
1st Corinthians 3:8 He who plants and he who waters are one, and each will receive his wages according to his labor.

Planting in this contest is like starting a relationship, taking the "RING", choosing a career. Watering is your responsibility to nourish the plant for it to bear fruits.
   I used to believe that exceptional friendship, great marriages, or flourishing career come about just by having a relationship with God. NO! NO !! If that is so,  true Christians would never get a divorce, end a friendship, or get laid off or burn out of their career.  That is the utmost thing from the truth. We have to put prayer AND effort into everything we do, YES! Along side the success of these goals, we have to be faithful, make research, build fruitful relationships, have mentors, coaches which will serve as a guide.  Every tool we need for success have been provided by God but if we don't  pick them up, we may keep on struggling to receive our blessings from Him. Have you ever wondered why most businesses don't last? I  critically want to believe its  because the individual or group involved aren’t working hard on what they prayed for (RESPONSIBILITY).
I once heard a young adult in his early Wednesday stage of life' say " I want to own a Bugatti" I got captivated and turned and I said  to him "can you dare to achieve what you want? And he laughed.. I told him Only the intelligent ones succeeds in school but in life only those who dare wins. If you must dare, your vision must speak for you, you must discover your talent and make a living out of it, he said ''If God says I will make money no body can stop me''... Did you notice something here? He doesn't want to work on his talent, he doesn't want to be responsible of his own life, rather he believes in feverent  prayer and asking God for money and a woman to love him for who he is .. please let's ask him " WHO ARE YOU" .. Funny huh? Knowing who you are is backed with the responsibility of developing your gift, creating a value, having a vision and taking action.

It’s not just our prayers that keep our matters in God’s hands, it’s also the actions we take, the positive steps we make, the time and commitment we put in. More energy has to be invested in the covenants we make instead of just waiting to receive the benefits from them ~ Jane Campbell. A tool is only valuable when the person using it knows what it was made for.  Your gift is your TOOL , use it, maximize it. You possibly can’t get the best out of anything  you weren't  willing to put your best into. God has put you in charge of your life, be RESPONSIBLE for everything you do, Live Right, Lead Right, Choose Right, Decide Right, don't go LEFT so that your Reward will come RIGHT in time..



TAKE CHARGE.
FLO TEAM.



Wednesday 28 August 2013

Focus


There Is Power In Focus. 


 By focus I mean clear, intentional concentration on a specific tangible or intangible circumstance or situation.  Focus can and will bring the energy of the mind, heart and soul into alignment.  Focused alignment is powerful.  However, it is imperative to be clear about what you are focused on, why you are focusing on it and, the energy behind your focus. When we are not clear about the energy and intention of the things we focus on, we will find it impossible to create new energy or experiences.  Instead, we will create or re-create what we don’t want rather than what we actually desire.

Bunmi in one of her Numerous poem line wrote “I should be suspicious of my wants.”  I agree.  I remember wanting to be a lawyer; specifically a criminal defense attorney.  After three weeks of visiting clients housed in jail, I realized that I wanted the right thing, to be of service to others, for the wrong reasons, to feel powerful and have control. I remember wanting to be married to my three year Long love'. 'Visually' (:D) 90 days into the marriage I became painfully aware that in this situation, I wanted the wrong thing, to make him prove he loved me, for the right reason, to experience love and companionship.

There are times when we want one thing in order to avoid something else.  Or, we want something just to prove we can have it.  Then, there are situations that we want to end, regardless of the cost or the price we pay.  In many situations, at the core of what we want the focus is solving an immediate problem or satisfying an immediate need without appropriate consideration of the long term impact.  As most card-carrying human beings, we have had a tendency to focus on increasing what we consider to be pleasurable and avoiding, at all costs, what we perceive as painful.  With this as a focus we conveniently avoid important things like responsibility, accountability, integrity and, the still small voice of Spirit.  More often than not it is our unfocused wants that will lead us to places we’ve already been and do not want to re-visit.

Here we stand, collectively and individually on the cusp of a new beginning; another 'week'.  Here we are, collectively and individually, with a divine opportunity to create new experiences, circumstances and situations.  We must be suspicious of our wants.  And, we should be suspicious of why we want what we want.

Think about the Previous week, a week that probably promised to be one victory through struggle, unexpected movement, pressure on the family and, divine grace, our wants must be focused on the higher and greater good of the whole.  As this week begins to unfold, our focus must shift from what we don’t have to what is-possible.  We must take our minds, hearts and eyes away from what did not, should have, could have-happened by focusing on what and how we can grow what we have into more.

We are being called to ground our focus in things that are higher than what we know and greater than we think ourselves to be.  The focus must be about joy, curiosity and exploration rather than fear, survival and more of the same.  More often than not we focus our energy on what we don’t want because it is painful.  This means we are moving away from something rather than moving toward what we truly desire.  The focus of what we want must be clear.  The focus of what we want must be intentional.  The focus of what we want must be about creating good rather than avoiding the perceived bad.  The focus of what we want must come from an open heart rather than a conflicted head.

Focusing on what we want means that we are ready, willing and able to handle all aspects, possibilities and the responsibility of having the things we want.  Focusing on what we want demands that we are courageous enough to ask for and expect to have what we want rather than what we think is available.  Focusing on what we want requires that we stand in and demonstrate faith, trust, and commitment, even when it is hard. This week is bringing forth an energy that calls us to conduct asuspicious investigation of everything we think we want and the energy driving it.

What do you really, really want?  What is the feeling you desire to have?  How will that feeling and the experience it brings make you a better person in your life?  How will that feeling and the experience it brings support you in making life better for others in your family?  Community?  And, the world?  As early as possible in the energy of the week, I invite you to explore these inquiries with pen and paper.  Investigate your wants and your willingness and ability to focus on them.  Question what you want to move away from and what you are moving toward.  Give yourself the permission, the time and space required to explore, examine, reflect and inquire within yourself, about yourself and the things you say you want.  Be suspicious.  Be courageous.  Be willing to shift the focus of your wants to the desires God holds for you.

Are you willing to be focused on what you want?
Post your comment below.

Tuesday 23 July 2013

What Are You Wired To Do

For we are God’s [own] handiwork (His workmanship), recreated in Christ Jesus, [born anew] that we may do those good works which God predestined (planned beforehand) for us [taking paths which He prepared ahead of time], that we should walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us to Live.

AMP~Ephesians 2:10



This is one of the scriptures I return to most often and its also one perfect verse for us who are messengers. It really just describes the entire journey of stepping into our BIG purpose.

Curious? Let me explain. I see four key pieces here.

1. The first is  “workmanship,” and to me that means that you are a custom creation(Customized), that there is no one like you. Nobody else has the stuff that you have and has been created in the way that you have. You are a custom, tailor-made, one-of-a-kind creation.

You should never try to imitate and replicate what has already been done… because it has already been done! The world needs what only you have and it is already present in you. Any time you look outside of yourself to find something that is only within yourself, you miss the mark every single time.

2. A second piece is around good works. Your existence and presence here on Earth is to be able to do good works. You have to understand that there is a purpose to your voice. Good works are part of what you are expected to do and what you have been designed for. You’ve been designed to do awesome and amazing things.

Is that overwhelming? Well, it’s only natural to shrink back and think your vision is too big.

But what this scripture tells you is that you were pre-designed for it.  You were pre-designed for the incredible. You were pre-designed as a messenger.

I know this about you because if this wasn’t true for you, you wouldn’t have felt that tug you’ve been feeling. You see, not everybody will hear the invitation that you have heard. Those who have been pre-designed for something else won’t resonate with your tug because they have their own version of it.

But you, my friend… if you are reading this, I know that you have been listening to your invitation to be a messenger in the world. Goal4 it.

3. The third piece is “Planned before hand” You might be surprised by some of the things that God shows you about your life, about your business, about your calling, and about your own significance—but He’s not. He knew about all of the things that He would have for you from the very beginning. He knew who needed you. He designed you in such a way to meet the needs that other people have.

4. And that last piece—the word “To Live” Yes, action is required. It’s not enough to know what you are here to do, to say, and to share. You actually have to do it, Live it, Goal4 it. God really knows whether you are serious. You really can’t fake this. Think about it…. What happens when you get busy and take on other activities? You do every single thing except use the unique thing that you’ve been given to do. And you end up wasting it.

I always say that God will extend an invitation, but He will not give the information and instruction until after you have accepted the invitation.

I know you’ve heard the invitation. Now, what are you going to do with it? I believe that if you won’t respond, someone else will. God doesn’t lose. He doesn’t know how to lose. Purpose only knows how to win.

And this is your time to respond. Your time to act. Your time to step into your purpose.

Tell ME, what’s your first step going to be? I’d love to know!

Tuesday 16 July 2013

Dream Team

As you prepare to give birth to your dream and for God’s calling in your life to come to pass, what you share with others—and who you share with—is so important to your journey.

I really do believe that teamwork makes the dream work. We need others to help us stay through, accountable and in balance as we pursue our purpose. I also believe that Christ intends for us to operate in community with others. After all, Jesus had his disciples… the first dream team! And, oh, what a mission they were able to be a part of.

Today, I want you to take a close look at how you build the best support team around you. If you screw this up, you’ll be hanging out with the bunch of losers who will limit you and each other.

But, here’s the thing: a team is defined as ‘a number of persons associated in JOINT action.” By sharing your dream, you’re inviting people into your space, your plans and inner circle.(Social Etiquette)

The question is… who are you essentially “joining” with by sharing your dream and vision?

Some people (mistakenly & inadvertently) end up inviting everyone to their “team” —sharing their ideas and brilliance with anyone who will listen, seeking the advice and counsel of too many people or allowing themselves to be deterred by the words of doubters, worriers, nay-sayers, or jealous bystanders.

Listen! if you want to go fast go alone. If you want to go far go together.

Here are four best practices to ensure you move forward with the right people so your dream does not become a nightmare.

1. Be selective & inclusive. When sharing your dream, tell the people who need to know. (And, all your Facebook, Twitter... friends do not need to know… Trust me on this one.)  Part of creating conditions for profitable success is that the people who are connected to you, depend upon you, and rely upon you know where you’re going. So have a conversation with your significant other eg. your spouse, your kids. Make sure they understand how your dream will affect them and what it means to their lives.

2. Share with trusted advisers. Tell colleagues and advisers that you trust—people with wisdom, experience or expertise who can support you and will support you. Remember, not all of those who can, will.  Make sure that you’re only speaking with people who have expressed a sincere desire to support you in your journey… even if that means hiring them to be a mentor and coach.

3. Create a circle of accountability. When you tell others your dream, ask them to remind you of what you’re focused on and ask them to support you. Your trusted team can pour back into you and help you get where you’re going. And you can do the same for them. As Proverbs 11:25 "The one who blesses others is abundantly blessed; those who help others are helped"

This was a big step for me because I’m a solo “do-er” and don’t traditionally ask for a lot of support. But when I’ve made up my mind, I don’t ask for approval. I tell people, “This is where I am going, this is the legacy I’m building and these are the people I’m serving.” Then I say that when times get hard I’m going to need them as part of my support system to remind me why I’m doing what it is that I am doing.

4. Don’t wait for approval. While others are helpful, they aren’t always essential. Seeking support is completely different from seeking approval. When you are clear on what you want, you need only give yourself permission to pursue your dream without apology and the need for outside approval. Everyone won’t be able to support or understand your calling, your mission, your vision… YOUR dream. That’s why it is Y-O-U-R-S!  You never need to ask for permission to do something that God has already commissioned you to do.

Protecting your dream is key. People are an integral part of that process. Just use discretion, discernment (and common sense!) as you do so.

I know the best is within you… it’s time for it to manifest through you.

Tuesday 9 July 2013

What is Voice?

Life is about making decisions that allow the GENUINE YOU to emerge.

Your VOX is oh-so related to your divine purpose. It really is.
And, whether you realize it or not, the battles in your life are about one thing.
The battle is for your VOX.

The mess you’ve faced in the past.
It wasn’t about the mess – it was about the message…an attack on your VOX.

The battle you’re facing right now…. it also is likely an attack on your purpose.
Your vox. Your destiny.

I want to help you see what I’m talking about, and also explain how your abundance and prosperity accompany the message in your mouth!

So – while I’m excited…my spirit is equally unsettled.
My heart tells that if you’re reading this, you’re currently facing SOMETHING – some major decision, crossroads, confusion, frustration, or discouragement.

Maybe you’re looking for a change, but you don’t know what it is or how to make it.

Maybe you’re ready to change, but you’re afraid.

Maybe you think you’re not ready.
Maybe you think you don’t have anything to say or share.
Maybe you think you already know this stuff.

Or, maybe you just think the possibility of making money by speaking doesn’t apply to you.

Well, I believe that the greatest thing God gives us is our VOice. No one is exempt.
Heaven has something special in mind for you.

Personally, I’m most grateful for God showing me how important
our voices are to him.

Learning to embrace your vox is central to you being able to live your calling.

One can’t happen without the other.
That one revelation has changed my life, my influence and my financial lifestyle.

A change starts with a curious mind.

Simply open your mind and listen to what God is saying. Embrace the new possibilities you see for your voice and for your next season of abundance.

Do you have a Voice? Have you found Your Voice? Let us know below...

Friday 5 July 2013

Winning Ways

People often ask me what has helped me most to get to where I am today! And they are always surprised at my answer. What has  helped me most is my belief that having the mindset of a champion is more important than having the skill-set of a champion. That’s right…

Having the mindset of a champion simply entails  having fortitude, passion, conviction and commitment. And the intensity of our mindset determines whether we can handle the chroma of the marketplace. When our mindset is not strong, we might end up being crushed by the marketplace. I’ve seen it happen so much—for me, this piece is critical.

Here’s the challenge I see… It’s easy for us to forget how important our mindset is, because we forget that it is the soil upon which everything else is planted.

Mastery of our minds is the most critical ingredient of our success because…

1. Mind traps will keep us stuck more than anything else. We think our big, bad problem is that we need more clients or we need to be more exposed… and everything would be fine. We may well need more clients or exposure, but there is usually a mind trap that is holding us back—keeping us from being able to charge what we’re worth or put ourselves in front of our ideal clients. Mastering our mindset is so crucial that we’ve got to avoid anything that will sabotage our business, relationship, daily life activities, our objectives or our desires. We must stand guard at the doorway of our mind.

2. SpeedUp is influenced by Perception. Our self-perception determines how fast we implement. For instance, we can focus on how much competition we have, that we’re too old to begin, that we need more schooling… That’s one choice. Or we can hold this perception in our mind: “I was born for this, I was born to have an amazing brand platform and I am making up my mind and determining that brilliance is my identity. I know that being a messenger is a part of my divine identity.” Holding that perception inside will influence how quickly we implement. And if we are passionate about the outcome we will be passionate about the process that produces the outcome.

3. Having a strong mind is the key to having a strong business, a strong brand, and a strong platform. A strong mindset is everything. It really is everything. It’s going to determine the level of assertiveness and fortitude that we have. It’s going to mean the difference between really building our brand and our business in right way—or the wrong way. Our mindset also determines the authenticity of the actual brand itself—and how we and it show up in the marketplace.

We will have doubts. We will have discouraging days. That is precisely why we must build up our minds like a muscle.

I want you to focus on strengthening your mind. Remember, it’s not smarter than you. It’s a muscle that you have to train. You have to continually remind it who you are and what you’re called to do. You have to remind it that there is a greater purpose… and that this is your time.



How do you strengthen your mindset?
Let ME know…

Wednesday 3 July 2013

LIFT

There’s no denying that there are so many lost young girls wandering without direction or guidance. It’s easy to sit and condemn their acts, blaming their parents, schools, churches for not training these girls accordingly. But while we continually criticize, the issues worsen, and so it is on this premise LIFT was birthed; to give clues to the young girl on living life, having fun and fulfilling purpose the Jesus way. We cannot do it all, but we would do our part… rather than complain, we’ll be a part of the Solution.

LIFT acronym for “Ladies In Fellowship Together" is a Faith-based initiative for teenage girls. LIFT is centred on reviving, renewing and rejuvenating the spirit, mind and body of teenagers through informal gatherings/meetings/outings.
We seek to raise a generation of young teenage girls who would take their place as pace-setters in their generation, building ladies who would be aware of their worth and essence, ultimately affecting our community and Nigeria as a whole. By 31st Dec 2025 we hope to have achieved a Nigeria where ladies sell their Ideas instead of their Bodies'.

Nneoma Nwankwo
Managing Founder